Welcome to Episode 2 of the Curiously You Podcast!
In this Episode of the Curiously You podcast we are speaking with soul empowerment coach Abi Fox.
Abi is a self-confessed lover of speaking about authenticity in relationships, and in this episode we dive deep into her story, and how not all that long ago she was in a place of feeling like she had no love for herself: and that all her outward romantic relationships reflected that.
We speak about her past and the lessons she learned in order to open up and deeply connect with her soulmate Mogli whom, when she first met him, they did not even realise they were destined to be together. So how do we even reach this point in the first place? We speak about reaching a crisis point, and acting from a place of desperation or inspiration, how we need to focus on ourselves first and heal our relationship with our parents and ourselves before we can be ready for a romantic partner.
Then there’s the big killer of happiness in relationships: resentment, and what we can do to cut it off while it brews as frustration. This leads into the importance of awareness of ourselves and how we like to connect in relationships so we can build the best communication language with our partner.
We discuss the purpose of relationships and the importance of being open-hearted and vulnerable – sharing our feelings and fears in our heart as true to ourselves.
This episode is perfect for you don’t think you’ll ever met a romantic partner. Or, if you are already in a relationship, struggle to communicate with your significant other, or find you often descend into arguments.
Time Stamped Show Notes
[3:55] Abi’s story, how she had it all on paper but inside felt like a very lost and lonely girl, lacking self-confidence and self-worth.
[5:41] Crisis hit, and how believed she would be taken care of by her dad.
[8:11] Abi may have met her soul mate, but it would be 18 months of self-development work before she was ready to be with him romantically.
[9:45] Reaching rock bottom, and Abi’s big turnaround.
[10:23] Abi’s first few step major steps in making a change so you are ready for your soul mate.
[12:33] Why Abi reached rock bottom in order to make the change, but is doesn’t have to be that way for you.
[14:04] Abi’s next step in making changes in her life.
[16:05] The ways we find to protect ourselves from being hurt in relationships and how Abi accesses these parts of herself for a positive ripple effect in her outside world.
[18:57] How we cannot have a healthy relationship with our significant other until we heal the relationship with our parents, and how to do this.
[22:38] How to forgive ourselves, and by extension others, and the benefits this brings to our love life.
[26:38] What is resentment in relationships, and how can we avoid reaching this point [unique value point].
[32:34] Abi’s story of building self-awareness into her relationship and how you can do the same to heal past hurts and create a more authentic connection in your relationship.
[38:08] How Abi feels ‘next level happy’ in her relationship.
[42:39] How seeing that every relationship has a purpose will enable you to let go of control, be authentic, and grow as a person (and as a couple).
[45:18] The questions you need to ask yourself when you struggle to communicate with your partner, and the differences in how men and women communicate.
Key Take Homes
Are you acting from a place of inspiration of desperation in your romantic life? If desperation, how can you use the tools Abi suggests in order to transition to taking inspired action?
Abi’s Favourite Books:
Rising Strong, Brené Brown
Thanks so much for listening, until the next episode, take care of yourself.