Today’s Curiously You guest is Sarah K Jones and we’ll be speaking about awakening and stepping into your authentic self.
What does it look like and what is the process that we go through when we move through this transformation? We particularly look at all of the fears that come up during this shift; like rejection, abandonment and the urge to remain in the approval-seeking cycle.
Stepping into the unknown can be quite scary! Sarah K Jones walks us through her story and provides us with the tools to navigate through the fear in order to become our most authentic self.
You’ll love this episode if:
– You want to drop the exhaustion, and fall in love with your natural and most authentic way of being.
– You find the fears you experience as you practice being fully authentic both challenging and confronting. Sarah K Jones will walk you through these with ease.
[2:41] The Journey of Stepping Into your Authentic Self
The journey to authenticity is fraught with many milestones that we each have to meet; many of which trigger our fears. In Sarah’s journey, moving closer to her authentic self has meant that a lot has been asked of her. Over time, in closer to the person she is meant to be, Sarah has asked herself two key questions:
Why have I behaved the way that I have to date?
How has this behaviour served me?
The common fears that tend to come up for people are:
– Rejection: what’s going to change in their inner circle around them? How will close friends and family feel?
– Abandonment: fear of losing friends as a result of changing who you are.
– Seeking approval: wanting the approval of those closest to us can stunt our authentic growth because changing ourselves may effect the relationships we have with them.
[5:49] Adjusting to Growth And Resistance to Change
Sarah provides examples of how our bodies adjust and adapt to growth. For example, when someone is pregnant, the body expands, changes and adapts to condition to the growth. In the same way, when you step in to your authentic self, you grow, therefore emotionally, mentally, physically and energetically, the same sorts of adjustments and growing pains occur.
The primal fear of the fear of unknown also creeps in. It’s scary not knowing who you are going to be on the other end of the process.
[8:55] The Call to Change
Sarah found there were constant calls for change as she reflects on the environment that she grew up in. Her family served in the military, so their belief systems were very black and white. She names distinct moments when she emerged into her authentic self, and the steps she took in response to her intuition.
[12:28] Integrating The Coping Strategies to Change
As a child, Sarah’s first coping strategy was to dive into her own little world. She would turn to creativity and exclude herself. She created a universe for herself that felt safe, as she navigated toward finding herself.
The second coping strategy was to have friends in her circle that would be a safe extension of that universe she’d created, and provided a safety buffer between her and the world which she felt so freakishly different from.
She talks about ways in which she integrated honouring who she truly was into her life. The integration evolved to a shift from protecting herself, to creating a universe to enjoy with her inner circle.
[20:13] Completeness is where the true you starts to be born
We tend to live a life where we detach ourselves from the world in order to protect ourselves. Shamanic traditions encourage acceptance of all parts of ourselves – flaws and all. Completeness is where the wisdom and the enrichment of life lies.
Sarah also felt that in order to be comfortable in her life, she had to make others feel comfortable. She unpacks what she went through when it came to people pleasing.
[23:50] The Milestone of Rage
Rage is one of the milestones people sometimes feel when they realize that the way we are currently behaving is no longer serving them. After Sarah turned 27, a shift began to happen. She learned to acknowledge the sadness, anger and fury that was underneath the surface that she had been avoiding and disconnecting from as a result of her external world not reflecting her internal landscape.
The rage is a very necessary part of the process, which allows us to really express and feel what has built up under the surface. It’s the stage that propels you closer to the person who’s been inside you all along.
[31:24] Society and Role Models of Authenticity
Society can project values, beliefs and systems that dictate to us on how we should behave. Sarah discusses the challenges around finding an authentic model in society. In order to find this model, we have to look beyond our immediate circle.
Sarah uses the example of Madonna – how she is who she is, no matter what. Not only does this kind of model inspire us, but also soothes the fear of the unknown because she lives authentically, and has found success and happiness in doing so.
[33:27] Saturn Return
Astrologically, when you are born, Saturn sits at a certain spot in your chart. It takes approximately 28 and a half years to orbit the sun for Saturn to return to that spot in your chart.
As a planet, Saturn is the authority and when the return happens, a massive transformation is triggered. Issues are resurfaced such as trauma, devastation and parental issues, those which appear are contingent on what needs to be galvanised before the next chapter in life.
[37:54] Understanding experiences as a pathway to completion
The more that you embrace the experiences that you have gone through – good and bad, the more that you realise that everything was as it needed to be for you to become more of who you are.
Key Take Homes
– There is going to be a great deal of resistance to stepping into your authentic self, usually appearing as paralyzing fears, yet the body is amazing at adapting to change.
– In order to be truly authentic we must integrate and accept all sides of ourselves – good and bad, in order to experience completion. Many painful emotions will appear, but this is all part of the healing process.
– You need to find a mentor or role model that has gone before and will help you step with courage into your authentic self.
Sarah K Jones helps Coaches, healers and practitioners to access a deeper space of integrity and substance. She can then use this to identify what their contribution to the planet is and what their innate wisdom is.
Check out Sarah’s http://www.sarahkjones.com.au and take her quiz for free to discover what your main archetype healing is. This quiz will be free for a limited time.
Can you think of any role models in the wider world who are unapologetically authentically themselves?
What makes you suggest that person, and what can you learn from observing them?
Let me know in the comments!
Thanks so much for listening curious friends. When you check into the podcast next time I hope that you have edged that bit closer to your authentic self!
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