18: Pt 2 I can no longer be who I was… but I have no idea how to become the new me: Transformation Without Fear Part 2 with Andrea Maxine Frade

Welcome to the second part of the Transformation without Fear podcast with Andrea Maxine Frade. If you haven’t heard the first one, check it out here first.

This two part-er is all about handling the fear and building the faith during the first stages of a life-changing transformation, where we know that we can no longer be who we were, but equally we have no idea how to be the person we are evolving into.

Following on from the meditation in part 1, we discuss building a habit around our meditation practice, even if it’s only for one minute per day to begin with! Let’s face reality, in today’s world we are impatient: if we didn’t get something yesterday, we want to chase something new. How do we find a way to step outside the desire for instant gratification in order to access our higher wisdom (because it needs to be handled with care, patience, and delicacy)?

Andrea walks us through some of her most powerful journalling and gratitude practices, and explains why they are important, and shows us how our darkest moments can be our most valuable gold, if we just take time to change our perspective.

This episode is perfect for you if:

– You are impatient, can’t handle the discomfort of transformation, and want the effects of transformation to have happened, like, yesterday.

– You find gratitude, journalling and affirmation practices arduous and awkward, here’s how to start this habit with ease and keep it up!

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Time Stamped Show Notes

[03:75] The clarity that comes from consistently practicing even the shortest super-focused meditation, and making sure your physiological focus it is right for you.

[08:14] Balancing the egoistic instant gratification in the modern world with accessing the inner non-egoistic grander knowing [unique value point].

[11:00] You inner knowing is delicate, you need to approach it differently to how you approach your work in the outer world.

[12:09] When you are feeling desperate, impatient, and in a sense of struggle, drop into this practice and watch your outlook transform [unique value point].

17.02 The power of journalling, and what we can learn about ourselves.

[19:41] How do you feel about your darkest catalytic moment? This will help you see it completely differently [unique value point].

[24:10] What is discernment, and why is it powerful during transformation

[29:22] The importance of developing future-friendly habits during your transformation.

[31:24] Affirmations for people who don’t like affirmations [unique value point].

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Key Take Homes

Our inner wisdom and delicate and in the initial stages of transformation cannot be easily accessed on tap. It take patience and practice through meditation and grounding yourself in your body, even if that means only doing it for one minute per day to start with.

When we make peace with our darkest moment by shifting our perspective to that of acceptance and gratitude, we can find gold from the process, and suffer through these difficult time with grace and ease.

Affirmations are for everyone, you just need to get creative! Find the language, topic and tone that works best for you and tailor your own one to fit!

Curious Question

Thinking about your struggles, your comfort threshold for affirmations, and language that you both love and could embrace, what could be your personal affirmation?

Experiment and be playful! Remember it doesn’t need to be perfect, it just needs to feel good to you!

If you’d like, let me know in the comments what you come up with.


Andrea Maxine Frade’s Website

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The Gift of Imperfection: Let Go Of Who You Think You’re Supposed To Be And Embrace Who You Are by Brene Brown

Anam Cara: Spiritual Wisdom For The Celtic World by John O’Donoghue

You Are A Badass: How To Stop Doubting Your Greatness And Start Living An Awesome Life by Jen Sincero

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Crossing The Unknown Sea: Work As A Pilgrimage of Identity by David Whyte

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